A new theory of sex

This page is here to document my new theory of sex.

This theory is meant to contrast with my older theories of sex which I considered to be insufficient

This is inspired by an ongoing conversation on the healthygamergg discord originally called "I want to change my cynical views on sex" posted on November 5th 2022

Time Horizons
Sex gets better with age and investment in your sex life, it is a long term thing. Shit like taking as many virginitites as you can (which is short term youth focused) is not the correct way to address this.

Sex peaks late in life. I previously believed it peaked in twenties then went to its worst in the thirties and asymptotically increased but never reached the twenties earlier, but that is just not true

Am I attractive?
Yes I am attractive. I get so many yeses in the few scenarios where they would be appropriate. I am just not in those scenarios enough. My belief is that this likely means gender dysphoria just covered up me seeing myself as attractive, and girls who can say yes do say yes,

Does the past matter?
Not really.

High school
High school sex isn't that good.

There’s a whole other debate about the nature of high school socializing. It’s likely unrepresentative of the world in ways that make it just unethical to put people through. I’m making a video on that topic called ”Is high school unethical?”.

This is a rather foreign debate to our culture. Is high school socializing in some way superior to adulthood socializing? I’d say yes. There are a few caveats: the biggest being that the people you’re socializing with are worse. Stigmatizing wanting to go back to high school is not good, as I believe most of it is related to a more organic social environment (alongside a few big artificial restrictions that are familiar to you).

As far as this relates to the sexual environment it means sex is more communal in high school.

One shouldn’t complain about things or feel like one was inferior for not having had sex in high school. Conditions are different and they are combined with it being a relatively young age. Part of the unethicalness of high school is that you are deceived into thinking the world will always be that way. I believe almost everyone who is 22 would be able to find someone in a high school environment (with other 22 year olds so in 16th grade). But it creates false optimism for the future.

College
Basically just high school but worse. Slightly better sex in exchange for worse chances to meet people.

Greek life is a bit of an anomaly but i haven’t participate so I can’t comment.

Vanity metrics
Vanity metrics don't matter

They don't matter in business and personal life is business so they shouldn't matter in personal life. Only actionable metrics matter

Vanity metrics include
 * total sex partners
 * not relevant to current situation
 * It’s like number of YouTube subscribers
 * since it’s lifetime it means it can represent someone’s past while being completely unrepresentative of their present or future
 * virginities taken
 * big metric of success but one that almost exclusively lines up with teenage success
 * it’s pretty envy inducing but doesn’t map onto much
 * best interpreted as a proxy for amount of sex partners when young. Happens pretty reliably in a young sexually active person and not at all for an old sexually active person
 * as such is even More of a vanity metric than total sex partners, for most people it will fundamentally have no relevance to their current situation